5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire
Published on: December 2 2022 by Tatiana James
5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire
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5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire
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| 00:00:00 | 00:00:05 | how to become the person you admire most |
| 00:00:03 | 00:00:07 | in the world i want you to think of who |
| 00:00:05 | 00:00:11 | this person is for you |
| 00:00:07 | 00:00:13 | is it a celebrity like an oprah |
| 00:00:11 | 00:00:14 | is it a family member a parent or a |
| 00:00:13 | 00:00:17 | grandparent |
| 00:00:14 | 00:00:18 | maybe a co-worker or perhaps it's |
| 00:00:17 | 00:00:19 | someone that you randomly met on the |
| 00:00:18 | 00:00:22 | street |
| 00:00:19 | 00:00:24 | create an image of this person that you |
| 00:00:22 | 00:00:27 | greatly admire |
| 00:00:24 | 00:00:30 | now let me remind you that you |
| 00:00:27 | 00:00:33 | are 99.9 percent |
| 00:00:30 | 00:00:34 | genetikally identikal to this person you |
| 00:00:33 | 00:00:37 | both have |
| 00:00:34 | 00:00:41 | brains and hearts strengths |
| 00:00:37 | 00:00:43 | and weaknesses temptations and fears |
| 00:00:41 | 00:00:45 | you're human and so are they and so |
| 00:00:43 | 00:00:48 | there's absolutely |
| 00:00:45 | 00:00:49 | no reason why you cannot become like the |
| 00:00:48 | 00:00:52 | person |
| 00:00:49 | 00:00:55 | you admire most and |
| 00:00:52 | 00:00:56 | why wouldn't you strive to become what |
| 00:00:55 | 00:00:59 | you perceive |
| 00:00:56 | 00:00:59 | as great not what others define to be |
| 00:00:59 | 00:01:02 | great |
| 00:00:59 | 00:01:03 | or admirable but what you define as |
| 00:01:02 | 00:01:06 | great and admirable |
| 00:01:03 | 00:01:08 | why wouldn't you strive to become that |
| 00:01:06 | 00:01:10 | and let me clarify when i say |
| 00:01:08 | 00:01:12 | to become the person you admire i don't |
| 00:01:10 | 00:01:14 | mean to become that person quite |
| 00:01:12 | 00:01:16 | literally of course not i mean to adopt |
| 00:01:14 | 00:01:19 | the qualities |
| 00:01:16 | 00:01:22 | that make that person admirable |
| 00:01:19 | 00:01:23 | listen by becoming the best version of |
| 00:01:22 | 00:01:25 | yourself |
| 00:01:23 | 00:01:26 | and that doesn't mean perfection okay we |
| 00:01:25 | 00:01:29 | will all fall |
| 00:01:26 | 00:01:31 | short we all have weaknesses but it's |
| 00:01:29 | 00:01:33 | the endeavor |
| 00:01:31 | 00:01:34 | of bettering yourself that will |
| 00:01:33 | 00:01:38 | transform your life |
| 00:01:34 | 00:01:41 | in ways that you cannot imagine |
| 00:01:38 | 00:01:42 | and it will touch everyone who has the |
| 00:01:41 | 00:01:45 | pleasure |
| 00:01:42 | 00:01:47 | of knowing you so in today's video |
| 00:01:45 | 00:01:48 | i'm going to be sharing with you five |
| 00:01:47 | 00:01:51 | tips on how |
| 00:01:48 | 00:01:52 | you can become the person you admire |
| 00:01:51 | 00:01:56 | number one |
| 00:01:52 | 00:02:00 | turn your cats into cans so the other |
| 00:01:56 | 00:02:02 | night i was quite tired and feeling lazy |
| 00:02:00 | 00:02:04 | and so there was a lot of things that i |
| 00:02:02 | 00:02:06 | knew i should do |
| 00:02:04 | 00:02:07 | that i didn't want to do so i started |
| 00:02:06 | 00:02:10 | saying my i |
| 00:02:07 | 00:02:11 | can't out loud i can't empty the |
| 00:02:10 | 00:02:14 | dishwasher |
| 00:02:11 | 00:02:17 | i can't brush the dog i can't read my |
| 00:02:14 | 00:02:20 | book or do anything productive |
| 00:02:17 | 00:02:24 | i can't do the laundry i can't |
| 00:02:20 | 00:02:26 | brush my hair or wash my face |
| 00:02:24 | 00:02:28 | and because i was saying them out loud |
| 00:02:26 | 00:02:30 | unconsciously of course |
| 00:02:28 | 00:02:32 | stefan was able to bring my awareness to |
| 00:02:30 | 00:02:35 | it and he's like hey you know |
| 00:02:32 | 00:02:37 | you're saying you can't a lot and so it |
| 00:02:35 | 00:02:39 | was in that moment of awareness that i |
| 00:02:37 | 00:02:39 | thought about it and i was like yeah |
| 00:02:39 | 00:02:42 | these are |
| 00:02:39 | 00:02:44 | all limiting beliefs all these i can't |
| 00:02:42 | 00:02:48 | they're just limiting beliefs because |
| 00:02:44 | 00:02:48 | of course i can do it i just choose not |
| 00:02:48 | 00:02:51 | to |
| 00:02:48 | 00:02:52 | because i feel lazy and so then i had a |
| 00:02:51 | 00:02:55 | decision to make |
| 00:02:52 | 00:02:57 | and so i decided that i want to shatter |
| 00:02:55 | 00:03:00 | those limiting beliefs because it's |
| 00:02:57 | 00:03:01 | not serving me in my life when there are |
| 00:03:00 | 00:03:03 | things that i know i should do and i'm |
| 00:03:01 | 00:03:05 | not doing them because of my i |
| 00:03:03 | 00:03:07 | can't then that's a limiting belief that |
| 00:03:05 | 00:03:09 | i want to eradicate |
| 00:03:07 | 00:03:11 | and that solution is simple it's very |
| 00:03:09 | 00:03:12 | simple do the things that you say you |
| 00:03:11 | 00:03:14 | can't do |
| 00:03:12 | 00:03:16 | so i started doing all of it i emptied |
| 00:03:14 | 00:03:19 | the dishwasher i cleaned the whole damn |
| 00:03:16 | 00:03:20 | house i did everything that i said i |
| 00:03:19 | 00:03:23 | couldn't do |
| 00:03:20 | 00:03:23 | and whenever i would unconsciously say |
| 00:03:23 | 00:03:26 | either |
| 00:03:23 | 00:03:28 | out loud or in my mind and i can't then |
| 00:03:26 | 00:03:30 | i would push myself to do |
| 00:03:28 | 00:03:32 | the thing that i said i can't do and |
| 00:03:30 | 00:03:32 | that went on the entire evening and i |
| 00:03:32 | 00:03:35 | actually |
| 00:03:32 | 00:03:37 | was energized from all of the doing i |
| 00:03:35 | 00:03:40 | that was going on |
| 00:03:37 | 00:03:41 | and so i i developed a new belief so |
| 00:03:40 | 00:03:43 | rather than a limiting belief i |
| 00:03:41 | 00:03:45 | eradicated those limiting beliefs i |
| 00:03:43 | 00:03:47 | developed a new belief that i |
| 00:03:45 | 00:03:49 | can do the things that i want to do even |
| 00:03:47 | 00:03:52 | if i'm feeling tired and lazy |
| 00:03:49 | 00:03:54 | and the question for you is what are the |
| 00:03:52 | 00:03:56 | things that you say |
| 00:03:54 | 00:03:57 | i can't do or maybe it's not i can't |
| 00:03:56 | 00:04:00 | maybe for you it's |
| 00:03:57 | 00:04:01 | i don't feel like it i don't feel like |
| 00:04:00 | 00:04:03 | it i don't feel like |
| 00:04:01 | 00:04:04 | walking the dog i don't feel like going |
| 00:04:03 | 00:04:07 | to the gym |
| 00:04:04 | 00:04:08 | i don't feel like doing this doing that |
| 00:04:07 | 00:04:09 | you know |
| 00:04:08 | 00:04:10 | if you know there are things that you |
| 00:04:09 | 00:04:12 | should do because they're actually going |
| 00:04:10 | 00:04:16 | to improve your life and help you |
| 00:04:12 | 00:04:18 | on some level then these stories that we |
| 00:04:16 | 00:04:21 | create of why we aren't doing them are |
| 00:04:18 | 00:04:24 | just that they're stories and we can |
| 00:04:21 | 00:04:25 | rewrite the script we can tell a new |
| 00:04:24 | 00:04:27 | story |
| 00:04:25 | 00:04:28 | there's one of my favorite songs by |
| 00:04:27 | 00:04:31 | trevor hall |
| 00:04:28 | 00:04:33 | it goes oh no no no you just gotta let |
| 00:04:31 | 00:04:35 | that old story go |
| 00:04:33 | 00:04:38 | and that's exactly what we need to do we |
| 00:04:35 | 00:04:39 | have a story of our lives that is on |
| 00:04:38 | 00:04:41 | repeat |
| 00:04:39 | 00:04:42 | and even on a day to day stories that we |
| 00:04:41 | 00:04:44 | tell ourselves |
| 00:04:42 | 00:04:45 | and we can create a new narrative that's |
| 00:04:44 | 00:04:48 | going to better serve us |
| 00:04:45 | 00:04:50 | so turn your cans into cans and you're |
| 00:04:48 | 00:04:53 | going to feel a lot more accomplished |
| 00:04:50 | 00:04:55 | and confident about yourself because |
| 00:04:53 | 00:04:56 | in those moments in the past you would |
| 00:04:55 | 00:04:59 | make excuses |
| 00:04:56 | 00:05:01 | but now you're actually swapping those |
| 00:04:59 | 00:05:03 | excuses for action |
| 00:05:01 | 00:05:04 | and you're going to feel good about that |
| 00:05:03 | 00:05:06 | and it's going to get you one step |
| 00:05:04 | 00:05:09 | closer to becoming the person that you |
| 00:05:06 | 00:05:11 | admire now pro tip for you if you find |
| 00:05:09 | 00:05:13 | often time there are things that you |
| 00:05:11 | 00:05:14 | know you should do that you're trying to |
| 00:05:13 | 00:05:17 | avoid |
| 00:05:14 | 00:05:17 | well it's simple psychology human beings |
| 00:05:17 | 00:05:19 | we |
| 00:05:17 | 00:05:21 | we try and move towards things that will |
| 00:05:19 | 00:05:22 | bring us pleasure and away from things |
| 00:05:21 | 00:05:25 | that will |
| 00:05:22 | 00:05:27 | cause pain and we oftentimes do more to |
| 00:05:25 | 00:05:28 | avoid pain than to gain pleasure |
| 00:05:27 | 00:05:30 | and so if there's something that you |
| 00:05:28 | 00:05:30 | know you should be doing but you always |
| 00:05:30 | 00:05:33 | put |
| 00:05:30 | 00:05:35 | it back because you don't want to do it |
| 00:05:33 | 00:05:38 | then the secret is to link more pleasure |
| 00:05:35 | 00:05:40 | to doing that so if it is like cleaning |
| 00:05:38 | 00:05:42 | the house if you know you |
| 00:05:40 | 00:05:43 | should be cleaning the house more often |
| 00:05:42 | 00:05:45 | then try and |
| 00:05:43 | 00:05:47 | create more pleasure try and make it a |
| 00:05:45 | 00:05:48 | more enjoyable experience maybe turn on |
| 00:05:47 | 00:05:51 | some music |
| 00:05:48 | 00:05:53 | maybe dance while you're doing it |
| 00:05:51 | 00:05:56 | maybe like you know you can think of |
| 00:05:53 | 00:05:57 | ways to link more pleasure to the act of |
| 00:05:56 | 00:05:59 | cleaning the house |
| 00:05:57 | 00:06:02 | and that's going to make it a little bit |
| 00:05:59 | 00:06:06 | easier to get yourself to actually do it |
| 00:06:02 | 00:06:08 | number two be impeccable with your word |
| 00:06:06 | 00:06:09 | your word is a representation to the |
| 00:06:08 | 00:06:13 | outer world |
| 00:06:09 | 00:06:15 | of who you are inside what you say |
| 00:06:13 | 00:06:16 | and the words you choose to say are very |
| 00:06:15 | 00:06:18 | important |
| 00:06:16 | 00:06:20 | in don miguel ruiz's book the four |
| 00:06:18 | 00:06:22 | agreements i strongly recommend reading |
| 00:06:20 | 00:06:24 | it the first agreement is to be |
| 00:06:22 | 00:06:26 | impeccable with your word he says that |
| 00:06:24 | 00:06:28 | your words are like magic |
| 00:06:26 | 00:06:29 | they have the ability to create good in |
| 00:06:28 | 00:06:33 | the world |
| 00:06:29 | 00:06:34 | or to create chaos and spread negativity |
| 00:06:33 | 00:06:35 | and you have the choice you have the |
| 00:06:34 | 00:06:37 | choice what do you want to use your |
| 00:06:35 | 00:06:39 | words you want to use them for good |
| 00:06:37 | 00:06:41 | or do you want to use them to spread |
| 00:06:39 | 00:06:44 | chaos and negativity |
| 00:06:41 | 00:06:46 | you know personally um i'm very |
| 00:06:44 | 00:06:49 | conscious of of |
| 00:06:46 | 00:06:52 | my environment who i spend time with |
| 00:06:49 | 00:06:53 | as you guys know you know whether you're |
| 00:06:52 | 00:06:54 | conscious of it or not the people you |
| 00:06:53 | 00:06:57 | surround yourself |
| 00:06:54 | 00:06:59 | with will have an impact on you they |
| 00:06:57 | 00:07:02 | will influence you |
| 00:06:59 | 00:07:04 | for better or for worse and |
| 00:07:02 | 00:07:06 | if i am in a group where people are |
| 00:07:04 | 00:07:10 | gossiping |
| 00:07:06 | 00:07:11 | or judging then i will either remove |
| 00:07:10 | 00:07:13 | myself from the group |
| 00:07:11 | 00:07:14 | or i will tell them that i don't want to |
| 00:07:13 | 00:07:16 | have any part of this conversation |
| 00:07:14 | 00:07:18 | you're free to |
| 00:07:16 | 00:07:20 | say what you want of course but i don't |
| 00:07:18 | 00:07:24 | have to partikipate in it |
| 00:07:20 | 00:07:27 | and oftentimes my stance |
| 00:07:24 | 00:07:29 | and stating my position on |
| 00:07:27 | 00:07:31 | the gossiping and the judgment dissolves |
| 00:07:29 | 00:07:33 | that conversation |
| 00:07:31 | 00:07:35 | or i can remove myself and most often |
| 00:07:33 | 00:07:35 | just doesn't happen anymore because i'm |
| 00:07:35 | 00:07:37 | not |
| 00:07:35 | 00:07:38 | surrounding myself with people who who |
| 00:07:37 | 00:07:42 | are partikipating |
| 00:07:38 | 00:07:44 | in in using their words in perhaps a |
| 00:07:42 | 00:07:47 | negative way |
| 00:07:44 | 00:07:49 | so be conscious |
| 00:07:47 | 00:07:50 | of the words that you choose to use and |
| 00:07:49 | 00:07:55 | how you use them |
| 00:07:50 | 00:07:57 | in our society every word has a charge |
| 00:07:55 | 00:07:58 | a charge so powerful that there are some |
| 00:07:57 | 00:08:01 | words |
| 00:07:58 | 00:08:02 | that we as a society will suppress that |
| 00:08:01 | 00:08:05 | we can't even |
| 00:08:02 | 00:08:08 | say because they are so |
| 00:08:05 | 00:08:09 | triggering so you have to understand the |
| 00:08:08 | 00:08:13 | significance of that |
| 00:08:09 | 00:08:16 | and the power of that and |
| 00:08:13 | 00:08:19 | how that has an implication on your life |
| 00:08:16 | 00:08:19 | so what you choose to say has more of an |
| 00:08:19 | 00:08:22 | effect |
| 00:08:19 | 00:08:24 | than you may realize and remember that |
| 00:08:22 | 00:08:26 | there are some things that you can say |
| 00:08:24 | 00:08:28 | that you can never take back words that |
| 00:08:26 | 00:08:31 | once have been spoken |
| 00:08:28 | 00:08:34 | you can never take back so be more aware |
| 00:08:31 | 00:08:37 | and more conscious of what you're saying |
| 00:08:34 | 00:08:38 | also understand that your words are a |
| 00:08:37 | 00:08:41 | fundamental |
| 00:08:38 | 00:08:43 | piece of integrity of being a person of |
| 00:08:41 | 00:08:45 | integrity |
| 00:08:43 | 00:08:46 | so when you make a verbal commitment to |
| 00:08:45 | 00:08:49 | someone |
| 00:08:46 | 00:08:51 | i'm going to be there at 11 am be there |
| 00:08:49 | 00:08:53 | at 11 a.m |
| 00:08:51 | 00:08:55 | because you made a commitment you used |
| 00:08:53 | 00:08:59 | your words |
| 00:08:55 | 00:09:01 | and if you can't be there at 11am then |
| 00:08:59 | 00:09:04 | you can still be in integrity by using |
| 00:09:01 | 00:09:05 | your words to notify that person |
| 00:09:04 | 00:09:07 | in advance and let them know that you're |
| 00:09:05 | 00:09:09 | not able to attend |
| 00:09:07 | 00:09:10 | but it's important that whatever |
| 00:09:09 | 00:09:13 | commitments you break |
| 00:09:10 | 00:09:14 | whatever promises you made that you keep |
| 00:09:13 | 00:09:18 | them because if you're not |
| 00:09:14 | 00:09:20 | in integrity then you lose self-esteem |
| 00:09:18 | 00:09:22 | and if you are in integrity and you |
| 00:09:20 | 00:09:24 | maintain integrity you build |
| 00:09:22 | 00:09:26 | confidence in yourself you build |
| 00:09:24 | 00:09:30 | self-esteem and you become |
| 00:09:26 | 00:09:34 | the person that you admire number three |
| 00:09:30 | 00:09:37 | stop saying no start saying yes |
| 00:09:34 | 00:09:39 | so um this one kind of came to me |
| 00:09:37 | 00:09:42 | because i was thinking about how |
| 00:09:39 | 00:09:44 | life just gets better when you actually |
| 00:09:42 | 00:09:47 | start saying yes |
| 00:09:44 | 00:09:48 | um sometimes i will get into a period |
| 00:09:47 | 00:09:51 | where i don't want to do anything |
| 00:09:48 | 00:09:52 | i say no to hanging out with friends no |
| 00:09:51 | 00:09:55 | to going out |
| 00:09:52 | 00:09:56 | no to trying something new no to |
| 00:09:55 | 00:09:59 | starting something |
| 00:09:56 | 00:10:01 | a new hobby and what ends up happening |
| 00:09:59 | 00:10:03 | is when you keep saying no |
| 00:10:01 | 00:10:06 | then you end up waking up and living the |
| 00:10:03 | 00:10:07 | same day over and over again and you end |
| 00:10:06 | 00:10:10 | up living a very boring life |
| 00:10:07 | 00:10:11 | when i think about for example oprah a |
| 00:10:10 | 00:10:13 | lot of people |
| 00:10:11 | 00:10:15 | admire oprah you know part of the reason |
| 00:10:13 | 00:10:18 | why she is so admirable |
| 00:10:15 | 00:10:20 | is because of her knowledge |
| 00:10:18 | 00:10:22 | her knowledge that she only acquired |
| 00:10:20 | 00:10:25 | through life experience |
| 00:10:22 | 00:10:27 | through saying yes to interviews she |
| 00:10:25 | 00:10:30 | came from very humble beginnings and |
| 00:10:27 | 00:10:32 | she pushed herself and she said yes to |
| 00:10:30 | 00:10:34 | opportunities |
| 00:10:32 | 00:10:35 | and what happens when you say no all the |
| 00:10:34 | 00:10:37 | time |
| 00:10:35 | 00:10:39 | is that you cut yourself off from growth |
| 00:10:37 | 00:10:43 | because it's only through growth |
| 00:10:39 | 00:10:45 | that we can evolve and we can become |
| 00:10:43 | 00:10:47 | more than we currently are and so i |
| 00:10:45 | 00:10:49 | would encourage you to start saying yes |
| 00:10:47 | 00:10:50 | more often sometimes i think that as we |
| 00:10:49 | 00:10:52 | get older we start saying |
| 00:10:50 | 00:10:53 | no more often kids are always like yeah |
| 00:10:52 | 00:10:54 | i want to do this i want to do that i |
| 00:10:53 | 00:10:56 | want to do that |
| 00:10:54 | 00:10:57 | and sometimes we need to adopt more of |
| 00:10:56 | 00:11:00 | that in our lives |
| 00:10:57 | 00:11:01 | and so when you say yes more often yes |
| 00:11:00 | 00:11:04 | to experiences |
| 00:11:01 | 00:11:05 | um life becomes so much more meaningful |
| 00:11:04 | 00:11:06 | and so much more fulfilling you feel |
| 00:11:05 | 00:11:08 | more alive |
| 00:11:06 | 00:11:10 | because you're actually living right |
| 00:11:08 | 00:11:13 | your experience |
| 00:11:10 | 00:11:16 | living life is experiencing life |
| 00:11:13 | 00:11:18 | and that comes with saying yes there's a |
| 00:11:16 | 00:11:20 | movie called yes man |
| 00:11:18 | 00:11:21 | i forget how it ends but basically this |
| 00:11:20 | 00:11:24 | guy |
| 00:11:21 | 00:11:26 | he's always says yes to everyone and |
| 00:11:24 | 00:11:28 | it's quite entertaining but |
| 00:11:26 | 00:11:29 | you know of course there are limits on |
| 00:11:28 | 00:11:31 | that but do |
| 00:11:29 | 00:11:32 | say yes to the things that you think are |
| 00:11:31 | 00:11:35 | going to serve you in your life |
| 00:11:32 | 00:11:36 | even if you don't feel like doing them |
| 00:11:35 | 00:11:37 | that's the thing is that |
| 00:11:36 | 00:11:39 | it's building that momentum it's |
| 00:11:37 | 00:11:41 | bullying that habit because it's easy to |
| 00:11:39 | 00:11:42 | say again i don't feel like it |
| 00:11:41 | 00:11:45 | but then you're cutting yourself off |
| 00:11:42 | 00:11:46 | you're limiting yourself from |
| 00:11:45 | 00:11:49 | experiencing something that could be |
| 00:11:46 | 00:11:51 | great that could be |
| 00:11:49 | 00:11:52 | the best day of your life you know |
| 00:11:51 | 00:11:55 | something transformative |
| 00:11:52 | 00:11:56 | from developing a hobby that can open |
| 00:11:55 | 00:12:00 | doors to |
| 00:11:56 | 00:12:03 | new adventures so um start saying yes |
| 00:12:00 | 00:12:06 | number four develop awareness |
| 00:12:03 | 00:12:07 | awareness always precedes change i'm |
| 00:12:06 | 00:12:09 | going to say it again because it's |
| 00:12:07 | 00:12:10 | really important that you get this |
| 00:12:09 | 00:12:13 | awareness |
| 00:12:10 | 00:12:15 | always precedes change if there is |
| 00:12:13 | 00:12:17 | anything in your life that you want to |
| 00:12:15 | 00:12:20 | change you first need to develop |
| 00:12:17 | 00:12:21 | a level of self-awareness around what |
| 00:12:20 | 00:12:24 | needs to be |
| 00:12:21 | 00:12:27 | changed in order to make those changes |
| 00:12:24 | 00:12:28 | so in other words awareness developing |
| 00:12:27 | 00:12:31 | your level |
| 00:12:28 | 00:12:33 | of awareness self-awareness is very |
| 00:12:31 | 00:12:35 | important |
| 00:12:33 | 00:12:36 | to grow to continue to progress in your |
| 00:12:35 | 00:12:38 | life |
| 00:12:36 | 00:12:40 | and the cool thing is that awareness is |
| 00:12:38 | 00:12:42 | is kind of like |
| 00:12:40 | 00:12:44 | it's kind of like a skill that you can |
| 00:12:42 | 00:12:47 | develop it takes practike |
| 00:12:44 | 00:12:49 | and it takes time but you can develop |
| 00:12:47 | 00:12:51 | your level of self-awareness |
| 00:12:49 | 00:12:53 | and awareness can actually help |
| 00:12:51 | 00:12:55 | alleviate suffering in your life |
| 00:12:53 | 00:12:57 | sometimes you hear the saying that |
| 00:12:55 | 00:12:59 | ignorance is bliss but |
| 00:12:57 | 00:13:00 | in some contexts i can agree with that |
| 00:12:59 | 00:13:04 | but oftentimes |
| 00:13:00 | 00:13:06 | ignorance can create suffering |
| 00:13:04 | 00:13:08 | not being aware of what's going on in |
| 00:13:06 | 00:13:09 | your life can create suffering |
| 00:13:08 | 00:13:12 | so maybe there's something about |
| 00:13:09 | 00:13:13 | yourself that you're currently unaware |
| 00:13:12 | 00:13:15 | of that is |
| 00:13:13 | 00:13:17 | causing pain in your life but if you can |
| 00:13:15 | 00:13:20 | draw awareness to it |
| 00:13:17 | 00:13:21 | then you can actually take steps to |
| 00:13:20 | 00:13:25 | making changes |
| 00:13:21 | 00:13:27 | getting help so for example um |
| 00:13:25 | 00:13:28 | let me try and give you an example here |
| 00:13:27 | 00:13:30 | if you find |
| 00:13:28 | 00:13:32 | that oftentimes uh when you're in a |
| 00:13:30 | 00:13:34 | group of friends that you can get into |
| 00:13:32 | 00:13:36 | very |
| 00:13:34 | 00:13:38 | argumentative situations get into |
| 00:13:36 | 00:13:40 | conflicts maybe you get a little bit |
| 00:13:38 | 00:13:41 | aggressive you say things oftentimes |
| 00:13:40 | 00:13:43 | that you don't |
| 00:13:41 | 00:13:44 | mean maybe you get kicked out of parties |
| 00:13:43 | 00:13:47 | or you know you just |
| 00:13:44 | 00:13:49 | you show up in environments and conflict |
| 00:13:47 | 00:13:52 | seems to arise |
| 00:13:49 | 00:13:53 | well without awareness you think that oh |
| 00:13:52 | 00:13:56 | it's other people's fault |
| 00:13:53 | 00:13:58 | but with self-awareness you can actually |
| 00:13:56 | 00:14:00 | ask yourself well what's my part in this |
| 00:13:58 | 00:14:02 | you know there's always two sides to the |
| 00:14:00 | 00:14:04 | bread no matter how thin you slice it |
| 00:14:02 | 00:14:05 | what's my side what's my part in this |
| 00:14:04 | 00:14:08 | conflict |
| 00:14:05 | 00:14:10 | what's my part in this situation |
| 00:14:08 | 00:14:12 | and then you can maybe notike something |
| 00:14:10 | 00:14:15 | that was hiding before |
| 00:14:12 | 00:14:16 | that you were unconscious of before |
| 00:14:15 | 00:14:19 | maybe there's some |
| 00:14:16 | 00:14:20 | trauma from the past maybe there's |
| 00:14:19 | 00:14:22 | something that's a trigger that when |
| 00:14:20 | 00:14:24 | somebody says or does something or even |
| 00:14:22 | 00:14:24 | looks a certain way it's a trigger for |
| 00:14:24 | 00:14:26 | you |
| 00:14:24 | 00:14:27 | that causes you to react in a different |
| 00:14:26 | 00:14:29 | way and |
| 00:14:27 | 00:14:30 | once you have awareness around that you |
| 00:14:29 | 00:14:33 | can now |
| 00:14:30 | 00:14:35 | break those patterns break those habits |
| 00:14:33 | 00:14:38 | with the awareness |
| 00:14:35 | 00:14:41 | even like being aware of just how |
| 00:14:38 | 00:14:43 | how humans work you know for example i |
| 00:14:41 | 00:14:44 | know that on youtube you know you get a |
| 00:14:43 | 00:14:46 | lot |
| 00:14:44 | 00:14:48 | of positivity also a lot of negative |
| 00:14:46 | 00:14:51 | negativity on all social platforms |
| 00:14:48 | 00:14:52 | but i understand that oftentimes when |
| 00:14:51 | 00:14:55 | people |
| 00:14:52 | 00:14:57 | leave really negative uh comments |
| 00:14:55 | 00:14:58 | it has less to do with the person that |
| 00:14:57 | 00:15:01 | they're commenting about |
| 00:14:58 | 00:15:04 | and more to do with them if they're in a |
| 00:15:01 | 00:15:05 | really happy mood a positive state |
| 00:15:04 | 00:15:07 | most people oftentimes will comment |
| 00:15:05 | 00:15:08 | something positive because they had a |
| 00:15:07 | 00:15:10 | great day |
| 00:15:08 | 00:15:12 | but if people are in a really shitty |
| 00:15:10 | 00:15:15 | mood had the worst day ever |
| 00:15:12 | 00:15:18 | then they want to project their emotions |
| 00:15:15 | 00:15:19 | onto others and bring others down so |
| 00:15:18 | 00:15:21 | that they can feel |
| 00:15:19 | 00:15:23 | better about themselves or bring others |
| 00:15:21 | 00:15:25 | down to their level and so they'll |
| 00:15:23 | 00:15:28 | comment hate or negativity |
| 00:15:25 | 00:15:30 | so really has less to do with me or |
| 00:15:28 | 00:15:32 | the people that you know they're |
| 00:15:30 | 00:15:33 | interacting with online has more to do |
| 00:15:32 | 00:15:35 | with them |
| 00:15:33 | 00:15:36 | so me having the awareness of that |
| 00:15:35 | 00:15:39 | actually helps me as |
| 00:15:36 | 00:15:41 | someone who is a content creator because |
| 00:15:39 | 00:15:42 | i don't take things personally |
| 00:15:41 | 00:15:44 | the good or the bad thank you very much |
| 00:15:42 | 00:15:45 | for the good comments i appreciate them |
| 00:15:44 | 00:15:46 | but |
| 00:15:45 | 00:15:49 | i don't take any of it personally |
| 00:15:46 | 00:15:52 | because a |
| 00:15:49 | 00:15:53 | nobody online really knows who i am and |
| 00:15:52 | 00:15:54 | remember that about all the people that |
| 00:15:53 | 00:15:56 | you |
| 00:15:54 | 00:15:59 | follow the people that you follow they |
| 00:15:56 | 00:16:00 | will only share with you their persona |
| 00:15:59 | 00:16:02 | they'll only share with you part of them |
| 00:16:00 | 00:16:04 | that they want to share with you |
| 00:16:02 | 00:16:06 | they don't share with you everything |
| 00:16:04 | 00:16:09 | everyone has hidden |
| 00:16:06 | 00:16:11 | secrets about themselves hidden things |
| 00:16:09 | 00:16:13 | that they don't want the world to know |
| 00:16:11 | 00:16:14 | some people are more transparent than |
| 00:16:13 | 00:16:15 | others of course but always remember |
| 00:16:14 | 00:16:18 | that because sometimes we |
| 00:16:15 | 00:16:19 | we put influencers or celebrities on |
| 00:16:18 | 00:16:20 | this pedestal |
| 00:16:19 | 00:16:22 | and we think that they're so amazing and |
| 00:16:20 | 00:16:23 | fantastik and have their whole world |
| 00:16:22 | 00:16:26 | figured out and |
| 00:16:23 | 00:16:28 | perfect and like nobody's like that |
| 00:16:26 | 00:16:29 | right so if that's what you're getting |
| 00:16:28 | 00:16:31 | then that's just the projection that's |
| 00:16:29 | 00:16:33 | the persona that they're sharing with |
| 00:16:31 | 00:16:36 | you |
| 00:16:33 | 00:16:37 | but anyways it helps me as an influencer |
| 00:16:36 | 00:16:39 | tremendously to have that level of |
| 00:16:37 | 00:16:42 | awareness around |
| 00:16:39 | 00:16:44 | psychology and just how people work |
| 00:16:42 | 00:16:46 | especially online |
| 00:16:44 | 00:16:48 | so awareness is very important to make |
| 00:16:46 | 00:16:51 | sure that you spend time to |
| 00:16:48 | 00:16:53 | develop that number five model the |
| 00:16:51 | 00:16:57 | person you admire most |
| 00:16:53 | 00:16:59 | so in business i often uh |
| 00:16:57 | 00:17:01 | i often tok about how valuable it is to |
| 00:16:59 | 00:17:04 | model other businesses |
| 00:17:01 | 00:17:06 | most entrepreneurs most business owners |
| 00:17:04 | 00:17:08 | aren't the pioneers in their field |
| 00:17:06 | 00:17:09 | they follow a path that had already been |
| 00:17:08 | 00:17:11 | paved |
| 00:17:09 | 00:17:14 | and the benefit of that is that there |
| 00:17:11 | 00:17:16 | are other companies other people who are |
| 00:17:14 | 00:17:17 | further ahead than them more successful |
| 00:17:16 | 00:17:19 | than them |
| 00:17:17 | 00:17:20 | and so they can learn from them they can |
| 00:17:19 | 00:17:22 | model them and |
| 00:17:20 | 00:17:23 | modeling them does not mean copying them |
| 00:17:22 | 00:17:26 | copying |
| 00:17:23 | 00:17:27 | oftentimes doesn't get you very far |
| 00:17:26 | 00:17:29 | because |
| 00:17:27 | 00:17:31 | why do we need two apples no we have an |
| 00:17:29 | 00:17:32 | apple we've got a microsoft |
| 00:17:31 | 00:17:35 | some people like apple some people like |
| 00:17:32 | 00:17:36 | microsoft and plenty of other companies |
| 00:17:35 | 00:17:39 | as well of course |
| 00:17:36 | 00:17:40 | so the idea is to model them to see what |
| 00:17:39 | 00:17:43 | works for them |
| 00:17:40 | 00:17:45 | what are the qualities that we can pull |
| 00:17:43 | 00:17:48 | that we could apply to our lives |
| 00:17:45 | 00:17:50 | that will benefit us personally and so i |
| 00:17:48 | 00:17:52 | recommend extracting what you can from |
| 00:17:50 | 00:17:54 | the person that you admire |
| 00:17:52 | 00:17:56 | and maybe not all of it will be |
| 00:17:54 | 00:17:59 | applicable to you based on your goals |
| 00:17:56 | 00:18:01 | your personal goals in life but it's |
| 00:17:59 | 00:18:04 | good to kind of try and imagine you know |
| 00:18:01 | 00:18:04 | uh what is it that they believe or you |
| 00:18:04 | 00:18:07 | know |
| 00:18:04 | 00:18:09 | based on what i do know about them what |
| 00:18:07 | 00:18:10 | might be their value structure |
| 00:18:09 | 00:18:13 | meaning what are their values and what's |
| 00:18:10 | 00:18:15 | the order of their values |
| 00:18:13 | 00:18:16 | with you know because the order will |
| 00:18:15 | 00:18:18 | determine |
| 00:18:16 | 00:18:19 | a lot of the decisions that they make |
| 00:18:18 | 00:18:21 | the actions that they take |
| 00:18:19 | 00:18:22 | and so you can try and kind of dissect |
| 00:18:21 | 00:18:25 | this model |
| 00:18:22 | 00:18:26 | this person you admire to try and |
| 00:18:25 | 00:18:28 | understand them better |
| 00:18:26 | 00:18:29 | and then maybe through that there are |
| 00:18:28 | 00:18:32 | some things that you can pull that you |
| 00:18:29 | 00:18:36 | can apply to your life to help you |
| 00:18:32 | 00:18:39 | for me personally someone i admire |
| 00:18:36 | 00:18:42 | deeply is jesus jesus |
| 00:18:39 | 00:18:43 | the only sinless man to have walked on |
| 00:18:42 | 00:18:45 | earth |
| 00:18:43 | 00:18:48 | and the reason i admire him so much is |
| 00:18:45 | 00:18:53 | because wow what a great example of |
| 00:18:48 | 00:18:56 | love a great example of forgiveness |
| 00:18:53 | 00:19:00 | a great example of sacrifice |
| 00:18:56 | 00:19:01 | so he's up here and this is a standard |
| 00:19:00 | 00:19:03 | i'm never going to be able to attain |
| 00:19:01 | 00:19:06 | because i'm human |
| 00:19:03 | 00:19:09 | i am weak i have |
| 00:19:06 | 00:19:11 | challenges and that's okay i'm never |
| 00:19:09 | 00:19:14 | going to attain perfection |
| 00:19:11 | 00:19:18 | but it's not a bad thing to have |
| 00:19:14 | 00:19:21 | something so great to strive towards |
| 00:19:18 | 00:19:22 | because even though i will fail and i |
| 00:19:21 | 00:19:24 | will stumble |
| 00:19:22 | 00:19:26 | when i have this model that's so |
| 00:19:24 | 00:19:28 | beautiful |
| 00:19:26 | 00:19:29 | i will always pick myself back up and |
| 00:19:28 | 00:19:32 | try to become |
| 00:19:29 | 00:19:34 | more try to give more try to love more |
| 00:19:32 | 00:19:36 | try to share more try to be more |
| 00:19:34 | 00:19:38 | truthful more honest |
| 00:19:36 | 00:19:40 | try to love my parents more to you know |
| 00:19:38 | 00:19:43 | be the best version that i can be |
| 00:19:40 | 00:19:46 | on this planet so the idea is to |
| 00:19:43 | 00:19:47 | create qualities that you aspire to grow |
| 00:19:46 | 00:19:49 | into |
| 00:19:47 | 00:19:50 | and it's always about the journey never |
| 00:19:49 | 00:19:52 | the destination |
| 00:19:50 | 00:19:54 | so make sure that you're appreciating |
| 00:19:52 | 00:19:57 | and enjoying the journey |
| 00:19:54 | 00:19:59 | every single day so hopefully you |
| 00:19:57 | 00:20:00 | enjoyed this video those are my five |
| 00:19:59 | 00:20:02 | tips for you |
| 00:20:00 | 00:20:03 | i have more but i wanted to keep this |
| 00:20:02 | 00:20:06 | short because i do a lot of long |
| 00:20:03 | 00:20:07 | videos but i would love to know what |
| 00:20:06 | 00:20:09 | your tips are |
| 00:20:07 | 00:20:11 | do you have anything that you would like |
| 00:20:09 | 00:20:12 | to add to this list share it with me in |
| 00:20:11 | 00:20:14 | the comments below |
| 00:20:12 | 00:20:16 | also let me know which of these five |
| 00:20:14 | 00:20:18 | ones resonated with you most |
| 00:20:16 | 00:20:20 | i would love to know and if you wouldn't |
| 00:20:18 | 00:20:22 | mind disclosing |
| 00:20:20 | 00:20:24 | who is the person you admire most i |
| 00:20:22 | 00:20:26 | would love to know that as well |
| 00:20:24 | 00:20:27 | thank you so much for watching and i |
| 00:20:26 | 00:20:30 | will see you in the next video |
| 00:20:27 | 00:20:30 | bye |
