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5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire

Published on: December 2 2022 by Tatiana James

5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire

5 Tips To Become The Person You Admire

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00:00:00 00:00:05 how to become the person you admire most
00:00:03 00:00:07 in the world i want you to think of who
00:00:05 00:00:11 this person is for you
00:00:07 00:00:13 is it a celebrity like an oprah
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00:00:13 00:00:17 grandparent
00:00:14 00:00:18 maybe a co-worker or perhaps it's
00:00:17 00:00:19 someone that you randomly met on the
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00:00:19 00:00:24 create an image of this person that you
00:00:22 00:00:27 greatly admire
00:00:24 00:00:30 now let me remind you that you
00:00:27 00:00:33 are 99.9 percent
00:00:30 00:00:34 genetikally identikal to this person you
00:00:33 00:00:37 both have
00:00:34 00:00:41 brains and hearts strengths
00:00:37 00:00:43 and weaknesses temptations and fears
00:00:41 00:00:45 you're human and so are they and so
00:00:43 00:00:48 there's absolutely
00:00:45 00:00:49 no reason why you cannot become like the
00:00:48 00:00:52 person
00:00:49 00:00:55 you admire most and
00:00:52 00:00:56 why wouldn't you strive to become what
00:00:55 00:00:59 you perceive
00:00:56 00:00:59 as great not what others define to be
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00:01:02 00:01:06 great and admirable
00:01:03 00:01:08 why wouldn't you strive to become that
00:01:06 00:01:10 and let me clarify when i say
00:01:08 00:01:12 to become the person you admire i don't
00:01:10 00:01:14 mean to become that person quite
00:01:12 00:01:16 literally of course not i mean to adopt
00:01:14 00:01:19 the qualities
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00:01:19 00:01:23 listen by becoming the best version of
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00:01:23 00:01:26 and that doesn't mean perfection okay we
00:01:25 00:01:29 will all fall
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00:01:29 00:01:33 the endeavor
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00:01:33 00:01:38 transform your life
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00:01:45 00:01:48 i'm going to be sharing with you five
00:01:47 00:01:51 tips on how
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00:01:51 00:01:56 number one
00:01:52 00:02:00 turn your cats into cans so the other
00:01:56 00:02:02 night i was quite tired and feeling lazy
00:02:00 00:02:04 and so there was a lot of things that i
00:02:02 00:02:06 knew i should do
00:02:04 00:02:07 that i didn't want to do so i started
00:02:06 00:02:10 saying my i
00:02:07 00:02:11 can't out loud i can't empty the
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00:02:20 00:02:26 brush my hair or wash my face
00:02:24 00:02:28 and because i was saying them out loud
00:02:26 00:02:30 unconsciously of course
00:02:28 00:02:32 stefan was able to bring my awareness to
00:02:30 00:02:35 it and he's like hey you know
00:02:32 00:02:37 you're saying you can't a lot and so it
00:02:35 00:02:39 was in that moment of awareness that i
00:02:37 00:02:39 thought about it and i was like yeah
00:02:39 00:02:42 these are
00:02:39 00:02:44 all limiting beliefs all these i can't
00:02:42 00:02:48 they're just limiting beliefs because
00:02:44 00:02:48 of course i can do it i just choose not
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00:02:48 00:02:52 because i feel lazy and so then i had a
00:02:51 00:02:55 decision to make
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00:02:55 00:03:00 those limiting beliefs because it's
00:02:57 00:03:01 not serving me in my life when there are
00:03:00 00:03:03 things that i know i should do and i'm
00:03:01 00:03:05 not doing them because of my i
00:03:03 00:03:07 can't then that's a limiting belief that
00:03:05 00:03:09 i want to eradicate
00:03:07 00:03:11 and that solution is simple it's very
00:03:09 00:03:12 simple do the things that you say you
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00:03:12 00:03:16 so i started doing all of it i emptied
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00:03:19 00:03:23 couldn't do
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00:03:23 00:03:28 out loud or in my mind and i can't then
00:03:26 00:03:30 i would push myself to do
00:03:28 00:03:32 the thing that i said i can't do and
00:03:30 00:03:32 that went on the entire evening and i
00:03:32 00:03:35 actually
00:03:32 00:03:37 was energized from all of the doing i
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00:03:41 00:03:45 eradicated those limiting beliefs i
00:03:43 00:03:47 developed a new belief that i
00:03:45 00:03:49 can do the things that i want to do even
00:03:47 00:03:52 if i'm feeling tired and lazy
00:03:49 00:03:54 and the question for you is what are the
00:03:52 00:03:56 things that you say
00:03:54 00:03:57 i can't do or maybe it's not i can't
00:03:56 00:04:00 maybe for you it's
00:03:57 00:04:01 i don't feel like it i don't feel like
00:04:00 00:04:03 it i don't feel like
00:04:01 00:04:04 walking the dog i don't feel like going
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00:04:04 00:04:08 i don't feel like doing this doing that
00:04:07 00:04:09 you know
00:04:08 00:04:10 if you know there are things that you
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00:04:12 00:04:18 on some level then these stories that we
00:04:16 00:04:21 create of why we aren't doing them are
00:04:18 00:04:24 just that they're stories and we can
00:04:21 00:04:25 rewrite the script we can tell a new
00:04:24 00:04:27 story
00:04:25 00:04:28 there's one of my favorite songs by
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00:04:31 00:04:35 that old story go
00:04:33 00:04:38 and that's exactly what we need to do we
00:04:35 00:04:39 have a story of our lives that is on
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00:04:44 00:04:48 going to better serve us
00:04:45 00:04:50 so turn your cans into cans and you're
00:04:48 00:04:53 going to feel a lot more accomplished
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00:04:53 00:04:56 in those moments in the past you would
00:04:55 00:04:59 make excuses
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00:05:04 00:05:09 closer to becoming the person that you
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00:05:09 00:05:13 often time there are things that you
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00:05:14 00:05:17 well it's simple psychology human beings
00:05:17 00:05:19 we
00:05:17 00:05:21 we try and move towards things that will
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00:05:25 00:05:28 avoid pain than to gain pleasure
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00:05:30 00:05:33 put
00:05:30 00:05:35 it back because you don't want to do it
00:05:33 00:05:38 then the secret is to link more pleasure
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00:05:43 00:05:47 create more pleasure try and make it a
00:05:45 00:05:48 more enjoyable experience maybe turn on
00:05:47 00:05:51 some music
00:05:48 00:05:53 maybe dance while you're doing it
00:05:51 00:05:56 maybe like you know you can think of
00:05:53 00:05:57 ways to link more pleasure to the act of
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00:06:02 00:06:08 number two be impeccable with your word
00:06:06 00:06:09 your word is a representation to the
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00:06:09 00:06:15 of who you are inside what you say
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00:06:15 00:06:18 important
00:06:16 00:06:20 in don miguel ruiz's book the four
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00:06:24 00:06:28 your words are like magic
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00:06:35 00:06:39 words you want to use them for good
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00:06:41 00:06:46 you know personally um i'm very
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00:06:46 00:06:52 my environment who i spend time with
00:06:49 00:06:53 as you guys know you know whether you're
00:06:52 00:06:54 conscious of it or not the people you
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00:06:54 00:06:59 with will have an impact on you they
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00:07:02 00:07:06 if i am in a group where people are
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00:07:14 00:07:18 you're free to
00:07:16 00:07:20 say what you want of course but i don't
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00:07:20 00:07:27 and oftentimes my stance
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00:07:31 00:07:35 or i can remove myself and most often
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00:07:35 00:07:37 not
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00:07:50 00:07:57 in our society every word has a charge
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00:07:58 00:08:02 that we as a society will suppress that
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00:08:02 00:08:08 say because they are so
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00:08:22 00:08:26 there are some things that you can say
00:08:24 00:08:28 that you can never take back words that
00:08:26 00:08:31 once have been spoken
00:08:28 00:08:34 you can never take back so be more aware
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00:08:45 00:08:49 someone
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00:08:51 00:08:55 because you made a commitment you used
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00:08:59 00:09:04 you can still be in integrity by using
00:09:01 00:09:05 your words to notify that person
00:09:04 00:09:07 in advance and let them know that you're
00:09:05 00:09:09 not able to attend
00:09:07 00:09:10 but it's important that whatever
00:09:09 00:09:13 commitments you break
00:09:10 00:09:14 whatever promises you made that you keep
00:09:13 00:09:18 them because if you're not
00:09:14 00:09:20 in integrity then you lose self-esteem
00:09:18 00:09:22 and if you are in integrity and you
00:09:20 00:09:24 maintain integrity you build
00:09:22 00:09:26 confidence in yourself you build
00:09:24 00:09:30 self-esteem and you become
00:09:26 00:09:34 the person that you admire number three
00:09:30 00:09:37 stop saying no start saying yes
00:09:34 00:09:39 so um this one kind of came to me
00:09:37 00:09:42 because i was thinking about how
00:09:39 00:09:44 life just gets better when you actually
00:09:42 00:09:47 start saying yes
00:09:44 00:09:48 um sometimes i will get into a period
00:09:47 00:09:51 where i don't want to do anything
00:09:48 00:09:52 i say no to hanging out with friends no
00:09:51 00:09:55 to going out
00:09:52 00:09:56 no to trying something new no to
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00:09:56 00:10:01 a new hobby and what ends up happening
00:09:59 00:10:03 is when you keep saying no
00:10:01 00:10:06 then you end up waking up and living the
00:10:03 00:10:07 same day over and over again and you end
00:10:06 00:10:10 up living a very boring life
00:10:07 00:10:11 when i think about for example oprah a
00:10:10 00:10:13 lot of people
00:10:11 00:10:15 admire oprah you know part of the reason
00:10:13 00:10:18 why she is so admirable
00:10:15 00:10:20 is because of her knowledge
00:10:18 00:10:22 her knowledge that she only acquired
00:10:20 00:10:25 through life experience
00:10:22 00:10:27 through saying yes to interviews she
00:10:25 00:10:30 came from very humble beginnings and
00:10:27 00:10:32 she pushed herself and she said yes to
00:10:30 00:10:34 opportunities
00:10:32 00:10:35 and what happens when you say no all the
00:10:34 00:10:37 time
00:10:35 00:10:39 is that you cut yourself off from growth
00:10:37 00:10:43 because it's only through growth
00:10:39 00:10:45 that we can evolve and we can become
00:10:43 00:10:47 more than we currently are and so i
00:10:45 00:10:49 would encourage you to start saying yes
00:10:47 00:10:50 more often sometimes i think that as we
00:10:49 00:10:52 get older we start saying
00:10:50 00:10:53 no more often kids are always like yeah
00:10:52 00:10:54 i want to do this i want to do that i
00:10:53 00:10:56 want to do that
00:10:54 00:10:57 and sometimes we need to adopt more of
00:10:56 00:11:00 that in our lives
00:10:57 00:11:01 and so when you say yes more often yes
00:11:00 00:11:04 to experiences
00:11:01 00:11:05 um life becomes so much more meaningful
00:11:04 00:11:06 and so much more fulfilling you feel
00:11:05 00:11:08 more alive
00:11:06 00:11:10 because you're actually living right
00:11:08 00:11:13 your experience
00:11:10 00:11:16 living life is experiencing life
00:11:13 00:11:18 and that comes with saying yes there's a
00:11:16 00:11:20 movie called yes man
00:11:18 00:11:21 i forget how it ends but basically this
00:11:20 00:11:24 guy
00:11:21 00:11:26 he's always says yes to everyone and
00:11:24 00:11:28 it's quite entertaining but
00:11:26 00:11:29 you know of course there are limits on
00:11:28 00:11:31 that but do
00:11:29 00:11:32 say yes to the things that you think are
00:11:31 00:11:35 going to serve you in your life
00:11:32 00:11:36 even if you don't feel like doing them
00:11:35 00:11:37 that's the thing is that
00:11:36 00:11:39 it's building that momentum it's
00:11:37 00:11:41 bullying that habit because it's easy to
00:11:39 00:11:42 say again i don't feel like it
00:11:41 00:11:45 but then you're cutting yourself off
00:11:42 00:11:46 you're limiting yourself from
00:11:45 00:11:49 experiencing something that could be
00:11:46 00:11:51 great that could be
00:11:49 00:11:52 the best day of your life you know
00:11:51 00:11:55 something transformative
00:11:52 00:11:56 from developing a hobby that can open
00:11:55 00:12:00 doors to
00:11:56 00:12:03 new adventures so um start saying yes
00:12:00 00:12:06 number four develop awareness
00:12:03 00:12:07 awareness always precedes change i'm
00:12:06 00:12:09 going to say it again because it's
00:12:07 00:12:10 really important that you get this
00:12:09 00:12:13 awareness
00:12:10 00:12:15 always precedes change if there is
00:12:13 00:12:17 anything in your life that you want to
00:12:15 00:12:20 change you first need to develop
00:12:17 00:12:21 a level of self-awareness around what
00:12:20 00:12:24 needs to be
00:12:21 00:12:27 changed in order to make those changes
00:12:24 00:12:28 so in other words awareness developing
00:12:27 00:12:31 your level
00:12:28 00:12:33 of awareness self-awareness is very
00:12:31 00:12:35 important
00:12:33 00:12:36 to grow to continue to progress in your
00:12:35 00:12:38 life
00:12:36 00:12:40 and the cool thing is that awareness is
00:12:38 00:12:42 is kind of like
00:12:40 00:12:44 it's kind of like a skill that you can
00:12:42 00:12:47 develop it takes practike
00:12:44 00:12:49 and it takes time but you can develop
00:12:47 00:12:51 your level of self-awareness
00:12:49 00:12:53 and awareness can actually help
00:12:51 00:12:55 alleviate suffering in your life
00:12:53 00:12:57 sometimes you hear the saying that
00:12:55 00:12:59 ignorance is bliss but
00:12:57 00:13:00 in some contexts i can agree with that
00:12:59 00:13:04 but oftentimes
00:13:00 00:13:06 ignorance can create suffering
00:13:04 00:13:08 not being aware of what's going on in
00:13:06 00:13:09 your life can create suffering
00:13:08 00:13:12 so maybe there's something about
00:13:09 00:13:13 yourself that you're currently unaware
00:13:12 00:13:15 of that is
00:13:13 00:13:17 causing pain in your life but if you can
00:13:15 00:13:20 draw awareness to it
00:13:17 00:13:21 then you can actually take steps to
00:13:20 00:13:25 making changes
00:13:21 00:13:27 getting help so for example um
00:13:25 00:13:28 let me try and give you an example here
00:13:27 00:13:30 if you find
00:13:28 00:13:32 that oftentimes uh when you're in a
00:13:30 00:13:34 group of friends that you can get into
00:13:32 00:13:36 very
00:13:34 00:13:38 argumentative situations get into
00:13:36 00:13:40 conflicts maybe you get a little bit
00:13:38 00:13:41 aggressive you say things oftentimes
00:13:40 00:13:43 that you don't
00:13:41 00:13:44 mean maybe you get kicked out of parties
00:13:43 00:13:47 or you know you just
00:13:44 00:13:49 you show up in environments and conflict
00:13:47 00:13:52 seems to arise
00:13:49 00:13:53 well without awareness you think that oh
00:13:52 00:13:56 it's other people's fault
00:13:53 00:13:58 but with self-awareness you can actually
00:13:56 00:14:00 ask yourself well what's my part in this
00:13:58 00:14:02 you know there's always two sides to the
00:14:00 00:14:04 bread no matter how thin you slice it
00:14:02 00:14:05 what's my side what's my part in this
00:14:04 00:14:08 conflict
00:14:05 00:14:10 what's my part in this situation
00:14:08 00:14:12 and then you can maybe notike something
00:14:10 00:14:15 that was hiding before
00:14:12 00:14:16 that you were unconscious of before
00:14:15 00:14:19 maybe there's some
00:14:16 00:14:20 trauma from the past maybe there's
00:14:19 00:14:22 something that's a trigger that when
00:14:20 00:14:24 somebody says or does something or even
00:14:22 00:14:24 looks a certain way it's a trigger for
00:14:24 00:14:26 you
00:14:24 00:14:27 that causes you to react in a different
00:14:26 00:14:29 way and
00:14:27 00:14:30 once you have awareness around that you
00:14:29 00:14:33 can now
00:14:30 00:14:35 break those patterns break those habits
00:14:33 00:14:38 with the awareness
00:14:35 00:14:41 even like being aware of just how
00:14:38 00:14:43 how humans work you know for example i
00:14:41 00:14:44 know that on youtube you know you get a
00:14:43 00:14:46 lot
00:14:44 00:14:48 of positivity also a lot of negative
00:14:46 00:14:51 negativity on all social platforms
00:14:48 00:14:52 but i understand that oftentimes when
00:14:51 00:14:55 people
00:14:52 00:14:57 leave really negative uh comments
00:14:55 00:14:58 it has less to do with the person that
00:14:57 00:15:01 they're commenting about
00:14:58 00:15:04 and more to do with them if they're in a
00:15:01 00:15:05 really happy mood a positive state
00:15:04 00:15:07 most people oftentimes will comment
00:15:05 00:15:08 something positive because they had a
00:15:07 00:15:10 great day
00:15:08 00:15:12 but if people are in a really shitty
00:15:10 00:15:15 mood had the worst day ever
00:15:12 00:15:18 then they want to project their emotions
00:15:15 00:15:19 onto others and bring others down so
00:15:18 00:15:21 that they can feel
00:15:19 00:15:23 better about themselves or bring others
00:15:21 00:15:25 down to their level and so they'll
00:15:23 00:15:28 comment hate or negativity
00:15:25 00:15:30 so really has less to do with me or
00:15:28 00:15:32 the people that you know they're
00:15:30 00:15:33 interacting with online has more to do
00:15:32 00:15:35 with them
00:15:33 00:15:36 so me having the awareness of that
00:15:35 00:15:39 actually helps me as
00:15:36 00:15:41 someone who is a content creator because
00:15:39 00:15:42 i don't take things personally
00:15:41 00:15:44 the good or the bad thank you very much
00:15:42 00:15:45 for the good comments i appreciate them
00:15:44 00:15:46 but
00:15:45 00:15:49 i don't take any of it personally
00:15:46 00:15:52 because a
00:15:49 00:15:53 nobody online really knows who i am and
00:15:52 00:15:54 remember that about all the people that
00:15:53 00:15:56 you
00:15:54 00:15:59 follow the people that you follow they
00:15:56 00:16:00 will only share with you their persona
00:15:59 00:16:02 they'll only share with you part of them
00:16:00 00:16:04 that they want to share with you
00:16:02 00:16:06 they don't share with you everything
00:16:04 00:16:09 everyone has hidden
00:16:06 00:16:11 secrets about themselves hidden things
00:16:09 00:16:13 that they don't want the world to know
00:16:11 00:16:14 some people are more transparent than
00:16:13 00:16:15 others of course but always remember
00:16:14 00:16:18 that because sometimes we
00:16:15 00:16:19 we put influencers or celebrities on
00:16:18 00:16:20 this pedestal
00:16:19 00:16:22 and we think that they're so amazing and
00:16:20 00:16:23 fantastik and have their whole world
00:16:22 00:16:26 figured out and
00:16:23 00:16:28 perfect and like nobody's like that
00:16:26 00:16:29 right so if that's what you're getting
00:16:28 00:16:31 then that's just the projection that's
00:16:29 00:16:33 the persona that they're sharing with
00:16:31 00:16:36 you
00:16:33 00:16:37 but anyways it helps me as an influencer
00:16:36 00:16:39 tremendously to have that level of
00:16:37 00:16:42 awareness around
00:16:39 00:16:44 psychology and just how people work
00:16:42 00:16:46 especially online
00:16:44 00:16:48 so awareness is very important to make
00:16:46 00:16:51 sure that you spend time to
00:16:48 00:16:53 develop that number five model the
00:16:51 00:16:57 person you admire most
00:16:53 00:16:59 so in business i often uh
00:16:57 00:17:01 i often tok about how valuable it is to
00:16:59 00:17:04 model other businesses
00:17:01 00:17:06 most entrepreneurs most business owners
00:17:04 00:17:08 aren't the pioneers in their field
00:17:06 00:17:09 they follow a path that had already been
00:17:08 00:17:11 paved
00:17:09 00:17:14 and the benefit of that is that there
00:17:11 00:17:16 are other companies other people who are
00:17:14 00:17:17 further ahead than them more successful
00:17:16 00:17:19 than them
00:17:17 00:17:20 and so they can learn from them they can
00:17:19 00:17:22 model them and
00:17:20 00:17:23 modeling them does not mean copying them
00:17:22 00:17:26 copying
00:17:23 00:17:27 oftentimes doesn't get you very far
00:17:26 00:17:29 because
00:17:27 00:17:31 why do we need two apples no we have an
00:17:29 00:17:32 apple we've got a microsoft
00:17:31 00:17:35 some people like apple some people like
00:17:32 00:17:36 microsoft and plenty of other companies
00:17:35 00:17:39 as well of course
00:17:36 00:17:40 so the idea is to model them to see what
00:17:39 00:17:43 works for them
00:17:40 00:17:45 what are the qualities that we can pull
00:17:43 00:17:48 that we could apply to our lives
00:17:45 00:17:50 that will benefit us personally and so i
00:17:48 00:17:52 recommend extracting what you can from
00:17:50 00:17:54 the person that you admire
00:17:52 00:17:56 and maybe not all of it will be
00:17:54 00:17:59 applicable to you based on your goals
00:17:56 00:18:01 your personal goals in life but it's
00:17:59 00:18:04 good to kind of try and imagine you know
00:18:01 00:18:04 uh what is it that they believe or you
00:18:04 00:18:07 know
00:18:04 00:18:09 based on what i do know about them what
00:18:07 00:18:10 might be their value structure
00:18:09 00:18:13 meaning what are their values and what's
00:18:10 00:18:15 the order of their values
00:18:13 00:18:16 with you know because the order will
00:18:15 00:18:18 determine
00:18:16 00:18:19 a lot of the decisions that they make
00:18:18 00:18:21 the actions that they take
00:18:19 00:18:22 and so you can try and kind of dissect
00:18:21 00:18:25 this model
00:18:22 00:18:26 this person you admire to try and
00:18:25 00:18:28 understand them better
00:18:26 00:18:29 and then maybe through that there are
00:18:28 00:18:32 some things that you can pull that you
00:18:29 00:18:36 can apply to your life to help you
00:18:32 00:18:39 for me personally someone i admire
00:18:36 00:18:42 deeply is jesus jesus
00:18:39 00:18:43 the only sinless man to have walked on
00:18:42 00:18:45 earth
00:18:43 00:18:48 and the reason i admire him so much is
00:18:45 00:18:53 because wow what a great example of
00:18:48 00:18:56 love a great example of forgiveness
00:18:53 00:19:00 a great example of sacrifice
00:18:56 00:19:01 so he's up here and this is a standard
00:19:00 00:19:03 i'm never going to be able to attain
00:19:01 00:19:06 because i'm human
00:19:03 00:19:09 i am weak i have
00:19:06 00:19:11 challenges and that's okay i'm never
00:19:09 00:19:14 going to attain perfection
00:19:11 00:19:18 but it's not a bad thing to have
00:19:14 00:19:21 something so great to strive towards
00:19:18 00:19:22 because even though i will fail and i
00:19:21 00:19:24 will stumble
00:19:22 00:19:26 when i have this model that's so
00:19:24 00:19:28 beautiful
00:19:26 00:19:29 i will always pick myself back up and
00:19:28 00:19:32 try to become
00:19:29 00:19:34 more try to give more try to love more
00:19:32 00:19:36 try to share more try to be more
00:19:34 00:19:38 truthful more honest
00:19:36 00:19:40 try to love my parents more to you know
00:19:38 00:19:43 be the best version that i can be
00:19:40 00:19:46 on this planet so the idea is to
00:19:43 00:19:47 create qualities that you aspire to grow
00:19:46 00:19:49 into
00:19:47 00:19:50 and it's always about the journey never
00:19:49 00:19:52 the destination
00:19:50 00:19:54 so make sure that you're appreciating
00:19:52 00:19:57 and enjoying the journey
00:19:54 00:19:59 every single day so hopefully you
00:19:57 00:20:00 enjoyed this video those are my five
00:19:59 00:20:02 tips for you
00:20:00 00:20:03 i have more but i wanted to keep this
00:20:02 00:20:06 short because i do a lot of long
00:20:03 00:20:07 videos but i would love to know what
00:20:06 00:20:09 your tips are
00:20:07 00:20:11 do you have anything that you would like
00:20:09 00:20:12 to add to this list share it with me in
00:20:11 00:20:14 the comments below
00:20:12 00:20:16 also let me know which of these five
00:20:14 00:20:18 ones resonated with you most
00:20:16 00:20:20 i would love to know and if you wouldn't
00:20:18 00:20:22 mind disclosing
00:20:20 00:20:24 who is the person you admire most i
00:20:22 00:20:26 would love to know that as well
00:20:24 00:20:27 thank you so much for watching and i
00:20:26 00:20:30 will see you in the next video
00:20:27 00:20:30 bye