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How Self Love Leads To Success In Life

Published on: December 2 2022 by Tatiana James

How Self Love Leads To Success In Life

How Self Love Leads To Success In Life

hey everyone it's tatiana and today i
want to chat with you about self-love
it's a cutesy kind of term and it may
sound like a load of bs
but i think there is some value to be
had in understanding
self-love now there are a lot of youtube
videos out there on this topic it's
quite a popular
uh topic these days and i think a lot of
people are sharing
what they do uh their rituals that they
perform to
self-love and that's helpful but if
you're anything like me
i need to know the why why is it
important for me
to self-love why is this important
how is this going to add value to my
life if i don't understand the why
i'm just not going to do it because i
don't like to follow things blindly
so that's what this video is going to be
about today you may be wondering well
what the heck does this have to do with
business this is a business channel
tatiana
i think it has a lot to do with business
because if you want to become
successful and fulfilled then you need
to equally
invest as much time and resources in
yourself
as you do in your business because there
is
time after time we see people who are
successful but they're completely
unfulfilled
or unhappy and you don't want to be that
person
so you know you really got to focus on
both you can do both you can focus on
your business and yourself
simultaneously and it's necessary
in my own experience you know the work
that i've done on myself has been
fundamental
and it contributes to my success because
success is external achieving your goals
is external
all of that is in the external world but
all of that
manifests from the internal world it all
starts up here
so if you can clean this up and work on
yourself and do the work
up here with yourself the inner world
that's going to reflect in your outer
world
and it's gonna make everything so much
easier it's gonna make
life easier um that's why
self-development it's called
self-help right you're helping yourself
to navigate through life now another
reason why i want to make this video for
you guys today
is because i know you're very ambitious
and you set goals for yourself
and that's fantastik but
oftentimes if you trace the root
reason that you want to achieve those
goals
you may find that it's because you are
trying to gain
love why do you want to be successful
and you have to have an honest
conversation with yourself
because all of this happens in the
subconscious mind
and it's not until you bring it to your
awareness and ask yourself these
questions
that you can actually figure out what
what the reasons are
so why do you want to become successful
well maybe you say
because i want to feel significant that
alone to say that
and to come to that conclusion you
really have to humble yourself and be
honest with yourself
you want to feel significant well why do
you want to feel significant
because i think that if i'm now
significant
then my family and friends will love me
then i'll have earned their love
if i become successful then everyone's
going to see me in a different way and
i'll have earned their love
and this is something that you can do
this with
you know any goal in your life and a lot
of times
the reason that we do things the
motivator behind it that subconscious
motivator is because we're trying to
gain
love so we think that we need to do xyz
in order to
earn love we think that love is
something that we need to earn
we need to become more successful to
earn love we need to become more
beautiful
we need to be married we need to have a
family we need to you know whatever the
goal is
uh we think that we need to do those
things to earn love
rather than realizing the simple answer
and the truth that true love is a gift
true love cannot be earned true love is
given from one to the next
simply for your being for who you are
for your presence
that's really all it is and so you know
i encourage you to kind of look at your
goals
and and there's nothing wrong with being
motivated to
to um to experience love
uh we all want to feel more of that and
be surrounded by people who love us
and who whom we love as well but if that
is your
number one motivator well you can save
yourself
time and save yourself the journey
because you can give it to yourself
because if you think that you need to
earn love if you think that you need to
become something in order to receive
love
then you've got it all backwards and
you've got to reprogram your mind
so that's where the self-love comes in
when you
truly have a love for yourself and you
approve yourself you accept yourself
then you don't feel the need to gain
that from someone else
you don't feel the need to gain approval
and acceptance from others
so i'm going to give you an example the
other day i was at a restaurant
and i had my puppy with me he was in his
puppy stroller which
sounds a bit ridiculous but when you
have a 17 pound puppy who's not supposed
to be walking around because
he'll like grab anything he can see with
his mouth and start swallowing it
uh then then you'll you won't be
laughing you'll want the stroller
um so got the puppy in the stroller and
this woman behind me she couldn't quite
see him
but eventually she got a glimpse and she
said oh my goodness there's a puppy in
there
this whole time i've been hating on you
thinking that you just popped out a baby
and you look like that so you know we
all
laughed a little bit nervous chuckle
but you know that was actually a moment
where i was like wow that's really sad
you know that she would say that and
feel that
number one because it's an example of
woman hating on women
you know just because of how i look and
it's
unfortunate because women you know we
can be
great support systems for each other we
could we could really lift each other up
but oftentimes
we have this this scarcity mentality
where we think that another woman is in
competition with us
and women can be vicious you know if
you're a female watching this you know
women can be vicious so that's
unfortunate because we need more women
who will support other women regardless
of how they look like forget about that
and just see it as as your sister this
is your sister
and you can be a blessing in her life
instead of trying to
send negative energy towards her but
number two
and and more importantly is her comment
is a reflection
of how she feels about herself
so the way why would she even think of
something like that
is because she's projecting how she
feels about herself onto me
now projection is when you are placing
your
own negative traits or negative emotions
onto
others unconsciously and so what she is
doing she is projecting how she feels
about herself her insecurities
and i was a trigger for that and she was
projecting that onto me so
maybe you know when she looks in the
mirror and she does not like what she
sees
she looks in the mirror and she probably
takes her rips herself apart
and she's unhappy with what she sees and
maybe she did have a baby
and she didn't bounce back and so when
she saw me
thinking that i had a baby it it brought
up those insecurities
and and that jealousy but it was really
just a reflection of how she felt about
herself
so she's not happy with herself she's
not if she was happy with herself if she
loved herself she wouldn't make a
comment like that
she wouldn't even think it it doesn't
even cross your mind
so this is an example of why self love
is so important because if you love
yourself
if you approve and accept yourself not
only is it going to do you good
but it does everyone else good who is in
your
energy field everyone else she's sending
me negative energy that's not going to
do her good that's going to repel people
from her
and it's filling her with negative
self-tok
so when she looks in the mirror and she
does not like what she sees
and then it becomes a trigger for her so
she's sitting at a restaurant and all of
a sudden she's thinking about herself
and what she doesn't like about her body
and she's feeling poorly and she's
having negative thoughts
so it follows with her wherever she goes
so instead if she could just look in the
mirror and just accept herself
and love herself and appreciate herself
doesn't mean that she mean she may can
continue her weight loss journey if
that's her goal
if she wants to lose weight she can
continue on that journey
but instead of hating her body as it is
right now just
love it and appreciate it and continue
on that health journey
so if she filled herself up with love
then love is what she would be sending
out instead
you can only give what you have okay
so if you have love in your heart
then you can give love abundantly
if your cup is half full then you are
limited in your supply of what you can
give but if
your cup is overflowing then
you have so much that you can give
and that's why self-love is not selfish
and i totally get that i can get why
people struggle with self-love
self-love is not being arrogant or
narcissistik or egoistik or egotistik
it's none of those things okay it's just
taking a little bit of time
for yourself and just changing the
dialogue that's going on
in your mind and so when you can love
yourself
you can show up better for everyone else
in your life
and that includes your children i know a
lot of moms struggle with
taking time for themselves because they
want to take care of
every other person every single person
in the household
and then their last and oftentimes
there's no energy left for them
and i'm not saying that you shouldn't
take care of other people
first right it's a beautiful thing to
take care of other people
first and put other people first but you
gotta make sure there's some time for
yourself you've gotta
leave some energy for you because if you
can
revitalize yourself if you can
build up your battery reserves take care
of yourself
refresh yourself energize yourself you
know the this is what's going to help
you to show up better in the world
show up better for your family for your
kids they're going to be the main
benefactors of this
for your business it's going to help you
to show up better
for your work for your employees for
everyone
so that's why it's not selfish because
the best gift you can give everyone else
is to be the best version of yourself
and if you're completely depleted if
your reserves are low
if you have no energy if you're stressed
and fatigued
if if you are in a low state then
that's going to affect your environment
and everyone in that environment
negatively your low state your low
energy is going to
transfer to others so when you can take
care of yourself
and and revitalize yourself and be in a
peak state
that's going to only positively affect
other people
so don't think that it's selfish and it
doesn't have to be a big deal
you know maybe self-love for you is
running the bath
and just saying okay i'm going to take
an hour to give myself a nice bath i'm
going to pamper myself maybe
watch something in the bathtub maybe i'm
gonna you know have some bubbles and
some
exfoliation you know take care of
yourself in that way or maybe it's going
on a hike
or maybe it's reading a book you know
it's different for everyone but it's
just
it's just showing it's just saying you
know what tatiana
i love you enough that i'm going to give
you some of my of your time
you know i'm going to dedicate some time
just for you just to pamper you
and not only is it doing certain acts
but it's
really also it's what's going on in here
so when you look in the mirror instead
of ripping yourself apart
saying i'm not going to be beautiful i'm
not going to be loved until i'm
beautiful
i'm not going to be loved until i'm
thinner i'm not going to be loved unless
i
have a full head of hair on my head or
if my teeth are straight
you know all the things that we tell
ourselves like we really do rip
ourselves apart don't we
a lot of us do and instead of doing that
it's just bringing awareness to that
when that happens
and instead when you look in the mirror
exchange those words
for words of gratitude and gratitude is
so
powerful there is always always always
something to be grateful for
so if your teeth aren't straight enough
then you can at least be grateful for
the fact that you have
teeth you know or be grateful for the
fact that you have these
hands you know maybe yeah maybe you've
got big hands
or maybe they're wrinkly or they've got
pigmentation but guess what you've got
hands
and these hands are what make you so
capable
you know you can grab things you can
create things you can climb
you can do so much you can type and be
grateful for these hands that
you know they work 24 7 for you or you
can be grateful for the heart
your heart that beats 60 to 100 times
per minute
24 7 without a single thought from you
grateful for that heart that's working
around the clock to keep you alive
so there's always something you can be
grateful for so
i would encourage you to make this a
practike when you look in the mirror
instead of trying to rip yourself apart
you know give yourself some love because
when you have a true
authentik love for yourself if you can
accept you
the way you are with all the shadows
that are behind you you can accept all
of those too
then it's going to be so much easier for
you to accept the rest of the world
if you can love yourself for who you are
then it's going to be so much easier for
you to love the rest of the world
if you notike that you place a lot of
judgment on other people or a lot of
critikism on other people
well that's good that you notike it and
now realize that you're only able to do
that because you're
ten times a hundred times harder on
yourself
so when you can ease up on yourself
you're going to notike that
you critikize other people less you
judge other people less
and in doing so you're contributing to
lifting up this energy field and it's a
beautiful thing it's a beautiful thing
it's
a weight that gets lifted off your
shoulders when you can walk by
and you just are free of critikism free
of envy
free of judgment and it doesn't mean
that it's not going to seep in from time
to time
but it's not a constant thing where
you're walking by everyone and you're
judging how they look and what they wear
and what they say and what they do
it's like that's a lot of work that's a
lot that goes on in your mind instead
you can just have a peaceful mind
where you can just be in a place of love
and you can just give
love and acceptance and that is how you
can serve people and that is how you can
help people
because if you're constantly judging and
critikizing other people you're not
going to help them
you can only help them when you have an
open heart when you're able to love them
despite
of when you're able to say yeah i don't
necessarily agree with that
i don't necessarily believe in that but
i'm still going to love them
i'm still going to accept them i'm still
going to be there for them and support
them now i'm not going to say that you
can't love
another until you love yourself that's a
very popular
thing that people say i don't think
that's true but i do
think what is true is that if you can't
love yourself
it's going to be very challenging for
you to feel
the genuine love from others from your
family from your spouse from your
children even
it's going to be harder for you to feel
that love and the reason being
is because for example if you look in
the mirror and you don't think you're be
you're beautiful and then your husband
tells you you look beautiful today
how do you receive that do you believe
it or do you think oh he's just trying
to get in my pants
or oh he's just trying to say that to
make up for something now you start to
you start to come up with reasons why he
might be saying that instead of
actually realizing that he sincerely is
offering you a compliment
is he sincerely admiral admiring your
beauty
um so that's an example you know if you
if you don't love yourself it becomes
very hard for you to feel the genuine
love that is coming to you that's
flowing to you from those around you
and that's tragic it's tragic because
you're not going to feel the love first
and foremost but also it's tragic
because
you deny others the opportunity of
blessing you with their love
you deny your husband the gift of
sending you a compliment
and receiving it nicely instead he's met
with
this disbelief he wants to sincerely
give you that compliment but you're not
receiving it
so it's it's a double-edged sword if you
will i'll tell you my purpose
the purpose of my life is to live in a
beautiful state
and to be a blessing in the lives of
others
that is the purpose that i set for
myself now how the hell am i going to do
that
if i can't even love myself how am i
going to live in a beautiful state every
day
if i'm not going to love myself first
it's going to be
very hard so it really just does start
with the self-love
and it's a journey for some people you
know it was for me
but i've gotten to the place where i
don't i don't need to do anything to
gain
love i i'm perfect the way i am you're
perfect the way you are
god loves you that's the most important
thing
and i'm sure your family and friends
love you but they love you for you
not because you are doing xyz it's
it's for who you are and you have to
love you for who you
are too and accept yourself so
that is all i have to say today i hope
that you can see
how this does translate to your business
because all of this stuff you know that
you guys i tok a lot about the business
tactiks and strategies
which is going to help you with success
but a lot of times the principles
of success are not the same principles
of fulfillment
and you have to be able to identify that
and notike that
so sometimes you know that's why i want
to tie these things in too so that you
can both achieve
success and fulfillment otherwise
there's going to be an imbalance
where you're heading in the direction of
achieving a lot of success
but if you're not working on some other
stuff here then success without
fulfillment is failure as tony says
so i want to tie this stuff in too so
that you can start to think about it a
little bit
and and make it a practike work on
yourself treat yourself
the self-development is is key to
navigate the waters of life
i certainly wouldn't be here where i am
today if i didn't take it seriously
and if i if i didn't do the work so
hope you enjoyed this video give me a
like if you enjoyed it
let me know in the comment section what
are your self-love
practikes what do you do to pamper
yourself to take care of yourself
this could be acts that you do for
yourself
or it could be just mindset you know
what do you do how do you reframe things
i would love to know and i'm sure it's
going to help our viewers as well
thank you for watching take care